6 tips to Positive Body Language...
Body language is the non-verbal part of communication that we use to reveal our true feelings and emotions - even though perhaps sometimes we'd rather keep them hidden!
It's the genuine smile when you meet new neighbours that gives out positive body language; or it's the bored expression and constant glance at your watch that shows you'd rather be elsewhere giving out pure negativity.
It may not be fair but...
It may not be fair but the way you present yourself, that is the way you look and the way you initially address someone, is the way you will be judged!
Once you are aware of the messages your apperance may be giving out and you want to do something about it - YOU CAN!
The most obvious element is what you wear and how well groomed you are - this is an easy one to address. Dress to the occasion - casual, conservative or fun - but friendly and positive body language is the same whatever situation you're in.
- being introduced to the in-laws
- consulting the Bank Manager
- or merely greeting that new neighbour
- you want your impression to be positive.
"Tidy desk, tidy mind"
This is an old saying but very true! Your surroundings are an extension of you and a cluttered desk indicates a disorganized environment which will inevitably affect productivity.
A recent TV program showed a couple with a small bed and breakfast hotel who couldn't understand their lack of success.
Their personal appearance was unkempt and less than fresh, the exterior of the hotel was messy and unattractive and the whole appearance of the hotel less than inviting! They hadn't realized that they were putting everyone off!
6 tips to ensure Positive Body Language
1 Be well groomed
speaks volumes. Most of all it shows that you take care of yourself
which, in turn, shows that you respect yourself and your surroundings.
An inexpensive outfit can look a million dollars when you're clean, neat
and tidy. Being well groomed becomes a habit and will ensure that you're
proud of yourself at all times whatever you're wearing.
2 Make eye contact
to make eye contact looks as though you have something to hide. So hold
your head high and make initial eye contact.
It can be uncomfortable to hold
that contact for too long as it can easily become a 'stare' so make eye contact
periodically throughout the conversation.
3 A smile crosses every language
genuine smile is a delight and works wherever you are in the world.
Allow your smile to reach your eyes and show that you are happy to be meeting this person. A forced smile is easily spotted.
4 Use a firm handshake
your handshake firm but not overlong and make eye contact. A floppy
handshake makes you appear unsure of yourself and reluctant to be in
5 Repeat the name
When you're introduced it's very easy
for the name not to register.
So take just a moment to repeat the name, it's
polite to say 'I'm pleased to meet you Jane' and you'll be surprised
that actually saying it out loud will allow the name to lodge in your
memory. If you didn't catch the name, do ask, it saves embarrassment later on.
6 and Listen
love to talk about themselves so listen and show that you're interested
in the person and what they have to say. It shows respect and makes
people feel special.
It's good to make an occasional comment, to smile
or nod in agreement.
If you'd like some positive steps to follow, then the Credibility Code
shows some simple changes to body language which can have a dramatic impact on the way you're treated by others.
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