Concerned about making a good first impression?
We all speak without saying a word. Before you've even opened your mouth, from the way you dress and the way you behave, other people will have formed an opinion about you.
It's quite amazing to think that up to 93% of what we're saying is non-verbal.
So when you're meeting someone for the first time, particularly if you're really concerned about making a good first impression, it's important to appreciate how powerful Body Language can be.
Are you giving away more than you want to!
Ever had to ask someone to repeat their name after you've been talking to them for a while?
Your sub-conscious was working overtime taking in their appearance and how they were behaving - only 7% of your attention was available to listen and register the first thing they said.
TIP: When you're introduced to someone repeat their name - 'I'm pleased to meet you Jane (or George)'. It's good manners, it's making a good first impression and it helps you to remember.
The most important messages come from your
appearance. Is your outfit appropriate for the occasion? Have you made an effort with your Grooming?
When you walk into a room, the way you behave makes it obvious to others how you're feeling.
It seems very unfair but by the time you actually get to speak to someone their attention may have already drifted...
way you act and present yourself is revealing your innermost feelings
and there may be factors you don't want to be giving away to others. When you understand the messages you own non-verbal communication is sending out you can choose to put yourself in control and send out only positive Body Language.
If so much attention is focused on the way you look, it's eminently sensible to make sure that your appearance is saying what you want it to. It does seem very unfair but the way you present yourself can prevent you from making a good first impression.
Do you know how you 'come across' to others? Fortunately, you are in complete control of the way you look!
When you're buying a house it's always said that you make your decision within the first 11 seconds.
Well the opinion we form of each other is much the same.
Across a crowded room or even as you pass someone in the street, you've formed some kind of opinion. Those sub-conscious opinions made in the first few seconds are based purely on appearance.
A new job? The employer will have picked up some kind of 'vibe' as you walk in the door. Positive body language and a smart appearance won't make up for a lack of incompetence but it will get you a foot in the door and allow you to be heard.
Do you have any queries or comments about what you've read on this page or perhaps you'd like to share an experience of your own?